Friday, March 29, 2013

Positive Negative Reinforcement

11:30PM ish I meet this guy on scruff. (I'm visiting my mom during spring break.) we chatted for a couple days intermittently before we get to the good part. His pic is a bit dodgy but clear enough for me to see what he looks like. Bottom line is I'm moving back to town and I'm looking to meet guys in the area. Sex isn't really on my mind but everyone and I mean everyone on Grinder is looking for a hook up. In fact if you follow my tweets you already know recently tweeted a NY Times article"How Grindr Is Changing the Way We Connect". In the article the apps author is quoted saying
"...as much as Grindr is about casual interactions, it is also, at it's core, a social networking application...Mr. Woo said the Grindr survey of its users found that two-thirds of them were using the application to find new friends, to network or to kill time, as well as to hook up", which has always been the basis of my argument that Grinder is not just a hookup app. Otherwise, why include looking for friends relationship network etc?
He later says, "You're putting two people with not a lot in common on a crash course to meet..."
Unfortunately, in the final line of the article Mr. Woo, back pedals a bit, "I joke that the wheel was invented by a gay man so he could get to his hook up faster." ( nyti.ms/Y43qON )
This is why I'm on scruff. It tends to be a friendlier environment and the guys seem less full of themselves. It isn't always about getting your dick out and your nut off. Seriously, I many not be the White Gold Standard but I live in NYC and I'm Phyne, I have a bigger than avg. dick and a high tight bubble ass. I don't need any app to get off.

So I meet this bearish guy.We chat for a bit, now "bear" with me I'm paraphrasing.
Originally he starts off talking about how my pic is scary looking. I tell home I'm truly harmless and a nice guy I use the mad grill pic to ward of douche bags on Grindr. (which I later repeat on the phone)
Me: "Dude you got more pics?"
[Pic snt]
"You are so sexy!"
He: "I am not sexy! You are but I am not."
Me:"Would you let me be the judge of what's sexy or not. I hate those self proclaimed "VGL"/ "sexy" douche bags online. Hello narcissism or in your case insecurity. How do you know that you aren't exactly what I find perfectly sexy? I love all kinds of men."
We chat for a while more. He seemed cool and I asked if he wanted to hang.
"Send more pics I wanna see your body"
"Ok you do the same "
"Whys it do blurry"
"It's compressed I don't have scruff on my iPad so the pic was emailed from my phone. I'll send another"

He said, "If I don't want to hook up are you going to mad"
I'm like, "Dude I think your hot but we don't have to hook up at all. I'm just looking for some company and to meet guys in the area"
He then asked me to wait for his sister to leave. Texting me the whole time for about an hour.
He asks about my location picking me up etc.
"I live on No Bdway where are you?"
"I have a car i can come to you? What do you wanna do?"
bla bla bla
He says his sister is almost leaving then she's left. The next time he texts me its his number I've already texted him mine.
"Oh I'm in the garage... I was driving... Idk if I wanna come out or not."
Idk where he was waiting for his sister to leave from since he gave me the impression he was home now he's riding in the car. But hey benefit if the doubt maybe he ran out for iced cream.
"Well I can come to you if you like do you want company?"

Back and fort we go...

I would have included the actual scruff convo, but by the end of our conversation I was blocked. We also chatted on the phone for a good thirty minutes where he grilled me about this and that. All his questions are about what I like sexually, how big was my dick what like to do with a guy, how often do I jerk off and on and on.
Im like so do you want some company or not?
"Well i gotta take a shower"
"If you must but i don't need you to in fact i prefer you don't"
"I went to the gym i haven't showered since early this am"
(it's nearly midnight )...
"Your totally making my cock hard"
"Yeah you like that"
"And then some"
"I don't really smell though..."
"You may not stink or be offensive but everyone has their own scent. It's up to you but I'd love it if you didn't. It's not like we're having sex or anything8
"So you wanna smell to my sweaty pits?"
"Pits cock balls underwear socks feet!"
"But I don't really smell like that.."
"But like I said I'm really just looking for company of you want I'd be happy to spend the entire time with my face in any one of those sweaty places...
"So what if I want to just watch you jerk off with my sweaty nuts in your face. What if I want you to come strip naked and jerk off..(you will notice much of this is also repeated in our phone text at this point I'm thinking this MF is jerking off right now) Well let me clean up a bit"
"I don't need you to. No judgement."
"Ok I just have some laundry and stuff I gotta put away"
"Send me some more pics..."
So anyway, Here are the screen shots from our phone texts.

[Screen Shots 2 Follow]

Pictures have been altered to protect the guilty.

So now here's the thing. I gave this dude plenty of outs. On the phone and via text. He didn't take them instead he proceeded to try encourage me get him off over the phone. Now if you recall I started off this conversation by saying I'm not looking for sex. Now if you wanna reject me for any reason that's your prerogative. But you must really be smoking that Bobby Brown if you think I'm gonna let you use me to get off.
So as you can see after two hrs of dealing with this cunt I cut to the chase. I notice he promptly disappears from my Scruff messages on my iPad. As you've read I commented via text. So just to be sure I call......
Voice mail
"Impressive dude real mature"
I hang up the rest is in the rest the following screenshots.

Now I should have picked up on his douchebagery with all the send more pics and complaining about the one pic that's slightly blurred in areas(came from my Instagram) when this guy did not send me on clear photo. This is what I get for multi tasking. So here's the other thing. My status is listed in my profile it gets removed from time to time the biohazard that's on my stomach above my navel is clearly visible in several of the pics in my scruff profile. I've been POZ nor more than half my life time I have a fucking biohazard on my belly. I think it's needless to say I'm pretty upfront about my shit. If you happened to miss all that and ask I'm pretty upfront about my shit. Why is it necessary to bitch out and suddenly stop responding or block me because I'm not trying to be your cum rag or phone sex operator after you've decided I'm not fit to meet you because of my status. Im a big boy and after half my life being POZ, + my whole life being brown, I think I can handle a little rejection. It's about 3:15 as I'm wrapping this article up. This dude wasted two and a half hours of my time bullshitting. But didn't have the balls/ respect to respectfully decline and when he didn't get what he wanted he threw a tantrum. Then when I mention adding his ass to my blog suddenly he remembers how to text. Additionally, saying that I'm threatening him LOL.and to remove all posts etc I hadn't even written the the article yet.

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